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Body Language: Lying Signs

January 26th, 2010

Signs of Lying Body Language: Lying Signs
Most people want to learn body language specifically to find out when someone is lying to them, because we all have control over the words we choose to use but very few of us have control of the body movements and gestures that reveal what our true thoughts are.James Patterson, author of the popular book The Day America Told The Truth found out during his research that 91% of the population lied regularly (either White or Malicious Lies) both at home and at work.

girl covering mouth 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsDo you remember when you were little and you didn’t want to listen to what your parents had to say so you’d cover your ears? or after telling a lie you’d quickly cover your mouth in an attempt to stop the deceitful words coming out? how about when you saw something really scary or inappropriate and you’d cover your eyes to block those things out? All these facial gestures remain with us as we grow older but become more subtle in the way we use them, some of these gestures however can mean others things such as doubt, uncertainty and exaggeration so make sure you don’t read them in isolation but rather look for a group of deceit gestures or micro gestures such as increased saliva swallowing (more visible in men due to the Adam’s apple), contraction of eye pupils, sweating, blushing and even blinking will increase from the normal 10 blinks per minute to up to 60.Here are a few common gestures of lying:

  • Say No Evil 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsSay No Evil: As mentioned above, we unconsciously cover our mouth after lying or being deceitful as our brains unconsciously send signals to block what we consciously know is not true, this doesn’t necessarily have to be obvious, sometimes we block our mouth with our whole hand, a single finger as if we were scratching our lip or doing the ‘Shh” gesture (learned in childhood as our parents told us to shut up), rubbing their mouth with a few fingers or sometimes even a fist (occasionally masked by a fake cough).As you can read in the mirroring article, sometimes if your the one lying and the other person is aware of it…they will be the one making the mouth block gestures (the same as many of the other ones below), like when you have something in you teeth, they are the ones passing their tongue through their teeth as if subconsciously signaling you.
  • Smell No Evil 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsSmell No Evil?: This is when the person quickly rubs their nose several times or does one quick stroke on the side, research has shown chemicals known as Catecholamines are released when we lie causing the inside tissue of the nose to swell up while our blood pressure is slightly raised, the raising of blood pressure causes the nose to expand making the nerves inside of it give us that tingly sensation that makes us want to rub it…apart from deceit, this also occurs when someone is anxious, upset or angry, haven’t you noticed when those ‘cocky’ guys (watch The Sopranos) are trash talking or getting ready to fight many do that thumb-stroke-side-of-nose motion? If they genuinely have an itchy nose cause of a cold or hey fever they will be satisfied by deliberately scratching or rubbing it as opposed to a subtle stroke or touch.
  • See No Evil 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsSee No Evil: Instead of covering our eyes with our hands as we did when we were little and saw something unpleasant, as adults we choose to rub our eye instead, most people shut both eyes while rubbing one of them which provides the perfect way of blocking out what we find deceitful, distasteful or doubtful, we subconsciously do it to block out the face of the person we are lying to…hence why many people ask to be “Looked into their eyes” when they are saying something the other finds doubtful, sometimes we choose to look away as a manner of avoiding eye contact while we tell a lie.The popular belief that people can’t look into your eyes directly while lying is wrong though, several studies have concluded, 70% of liars keep eye contact while only 30% choose to look away, this is because everyone assumes liars aren’t able to keep eye contact which is why liars will choose to do the opposite of what is expected yet will still have small ticks like blocking out the victim by rubbing their eyes.Woman aren’t as obvious when rubbing their eyes, perhaps to avoid messing the mascara? so instead they choose a different approach and scratch underneath the eye or on the upper cheek when being deceitful.
  • Hear No Evil 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsHear No Evil: As you can imagine by now, this is the gesture used to filter out what we don’t want to hear, if we can’t cover our mouth from being deceitful we’ll try a different approach and cover our ears from hearing the lies we have to say, there’s many different ways used to do the Hear No Evil gesture, pulling on the earlobe downwards as if stretching it, rubbing the back of our ear, shoving our index finder inside to appear like we’re scratching and bending the top of the ear downwards trying to cover the hole.The Hear No Evil gesture can also be used in two other contexts, the first is when a person is feeling anxiety and the second is when someone has heard enough and would like to speak now.
  • Itchy Neck 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsItchy Neck: This one is performed usually with our writing hand, this gesture is when somebody scratches their neck with their index finger below the earlobe or slightly above the neck from four to six times, it is normally a sign of uncertainty or doubt and can be used by someone who is telling you they agree with what you have to say while secretly thinking something else, making up their mind or holding back their own opinion.Always remember though to read in context with the situation and look out for other deceit gestures to make sure.
  • Hot Collar 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsHot Collar: In the same basis of the Smell No Evil gesture approach, when our blood pressure rises we are taken over by hot flushes and sweat causing us a tingly sensation on our face as well as our neck, those tingly sensations is our skin trying to raise our now gone fur in the back of our necks to appear larger to threatening predators, it can also happen when we feel frustrated and angry, pulling on our neck collars is an attempt to scratch our necks as well as let some of the flushed heat from inside our sweaty shirt.
  • The Pacifier 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsThe Pacifier: Quite commonly found in women, this is a direct connection of trying to go back to our infant phase and the security that sucking on our mothers breast provided, I’m sure you’ve noticed many people who are under pressure or afraid will start bitting on their nails or using their fingers to fiddle with their lips or teeth.It’s an obvious yet subtle chain of evolution, where we substituted our mothers breast for sucking our thumb, as teenagers we start chewing on pens, gum or glasses frames and go from there to cigarettes or fiddling with our mouths using our fingers.
  • Eye Direction 150x150 Body Language: Lying SignsEyes Direction: Depending which way the person chooses to move their eyes towards, it is a strong indicator if they are remembering something or if they are making something up.If you ask a question to someone like “Where did you go?” and they look towards their top right, they are using the memory channel of their brain to remember, if however they look towards their top left, they are using the visual construction channel to imagine and make something up.Read more about it in the Eyes article.

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, please read the rest of the articles by clicking here.

Body Language: Smiles

January 26th, 2010

Different Types of Smiles Body Language: Smiles

Spotting a Genuine Smile

Genuine Smile 150x150 Body Language: SmilesThe history of research in the smiles field isn’t as laughable as the subject would suggest, French scientist Guillaume Duchenne de Boulogne used electrodiagnotics and electronic stimulation to distinguish the smile of real enjoyment and other kinds of smiling by experimenting with the heads of people who were executed in the guillotine testing how facial muscles reacted.He found out there is two sets of muscles that control the way we genuinely smile, zygomatic major muscles which run down the side of the face and connect to the corners of the mouth, and the orbicularis oculi muscles that pull back the eyes.The zygomatic majors pull the mouth back exposing the teeth and enlarging the cheeks, the orbicularis oculis however make the eyes narrower and cause wrinkles in the corners of them.

Real Smile Vs Fake 150x150 Body Language: SmilesKeep in mind the zygomatic major muscles can be consciously controlled allowing people to show insincere friendliness or subordination through fake smiles, the orbicularis oculis however can’t be controlled acting independently when feeling pleassure and reveal our true feelings…if you want to know how to distinguish genuine enjoyment smiles, observe the wrinkles in the corner beside the eyes (in the side photo try to spot which is real and fake, I made it harder as the model has glasses icon razz Body Language: Smiles ), the eyebrows will also slightly dip down.Ever wonder why they ask you to say “Cheese” when taking a photo? pronouncing the word pulls back on your zygomatic muscles but they forget about the orbicularis oculis resulting in a fake smile.

Common Types of Smiles

Apart from the above mentioned zygomatic majors/orbicularis oculis sincere smile (known simply as ‘Duchenne’), and the fake smile, there’s around 50 different types of smiles that have been found, the following are the most commonly used:

  • Tight Lipped Smile 150x150 Body Language: SmilesTight Lipped: In this one, the lips are tightly stretched across the face forming a straight line and concealing the teeth, this smile is not so much used by liars as by people who have secrets or are withholding their true opinion or attitude towards something.You can observe this one amongst women who say something like; “That dress is really gorgeous and looks beautiful on you” followed by a tight lipped smile instead of revealing their entire thoughts and ending; “….you fat cow!”.It’s also used as a polite smile by someone who doesn’t like her company but doesn’t know how to get rid of them.
  • smerk 150x150 Body Language: SmilesSmerk: This is a funny one, smerking is when someone displays two different emotions on their face, the zygomatic muscles on, lets say the right side of the face for this example, will pull the right side cheek and lip upwards…but the right side of the brain controls the left side of the face and will have the opposite effect of pulling downwards on those same muscles of the other side, giving a smile/frown contradiction effect.Try looking at the example picture on the side, if you put a piece of paper right through the middle covering the right or left side, you’ll see two different types of emotions in the faces are expressed.This type of smile displays sarcasm.
  • Shy Smile 150x150 Body Language: SmilesShy Smile: This one works marvels on men from what I’ve seen, with the head turned slightly downwards and facing away while looking upwards and holding a Tight Lipped smile, it will make the smiler look more innocent, juvenile, playful and secretive, it is thought of as being mens favorite smile as it endears parental male feelings and attracts their urge for protection and care of the young females…popularly used by Princess Diana more can be read about it in the Eyes article.
  • Compulsive Smiler 150x150 Body Language: SmilesCompulsive Smiler: There’s some people who just smile a lot it doesn’t matter for what reason, with big permanent grins on their face all the time displaying most of their teeth they are thought of as being suspiciously happy, because they either know something you don’t or they are being fake with everyone to gain something out of it.This type of smile can be noticed by the lack of wrinkles around the eyes when they do, It’s not really the case all of the time though, there are people who are constantly genuinely happy and even when they aren’t, they will still smile icon smile Body Language: Smiles .
  • Teeth Display Smile 150x150 Body Language: SmilesTeeth Display: Some people will widely open their mouths and simply display their upper teeth in hopes it appears they are laughing or are playful all the time, it usually works as it makes them appear happier, friendlier and therefore more likable amongst others and easier to approach.

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, please read the rest of the articles by clicking here.

Body Language: Personal Space

January 26th, 2010

Personal Space Body Language: Personal Space
personal space air bubble Body Language: Personal SpaceWe have all heard the term “Personal Space” used before in one context or another, but what does it really mean? Animals for centuries have been known to have their personal space and territories, snakes will attack you if your around their nest of eggs, dogs will bite you if you come too close into the territory their protecting, Lions will stay away from other Lion prides marked (by urine and poo) land and so forth.In the 1960′s Dr Edward Hall was one of the pioneers in the study of human personal space or what he called “proxemics“, Humans too have marked territories…we have marked the borders of our countries, borders of our states, borders of our cities, the borders of the suburb and we have even fenced our houses to establish the outline of our land just like the Lions.

What is interesting however is that apart from the obvious borders we have created, we also have invisible air borders around us…certain distances reserved for certain people, how comfortable would you feel if a perfect stranger was standing right next to you thrusting his body against yours and feeling his hot breath on your neck (uff…this is turning erotic! :S)? Ever wondered why we avoid eye contact in trains? feel spaciously violated in elevators and public transport?

Invisible Zoning

invasion of personal space 300x225 Body Language: Personal SpaceWe all carry an invisible air bubble around us that we feel comfortable in, as soon as someone comes to close inside our bubble…we will immediately feel discomfort and start becoming anxious.This bubble is created in our childhood and it varies depending on the location you grew up in, for example, someone that grew up in the country side or on a farm is use to having lots of space to themselves and therefore their bubble would be significantly bigger than someone who grew up in New York or New Delhi where the population is denser and everywhere is more crowded.A few years ago in Spain they decided to add extra seats in class rooms as the population was growing instead of expanding the schools, the result was catastrophic as the students not only could retain less information but became significantly more violent by the invasion of personal space and started fighting each other.

There’s general zoning distances you can keep in mind if you live in the city area of a Western country, some of these distances are increased by interaction of two men and decreased by the interaction of two women, they break down into the following:

  • Intimate Zone: About 15 to 45 cm’s (6 to 18 inches) this is the most important zone of them all as it is only reserved for a select few of people, this includes parents, love partners, children, family and very close friends, the proximity chosen by the person is also dependant on who it is…only love partners or our children would be allowed to engage in close physical proximity (15 cms or less) specially in the hip area as opposed to a distant family member giving us a goodbye kiss.Anyone who is not meant to be in the Intimate Zone and enters it will cause physiological changes (such as increased heart rate) in our body as we will feel threatened.
  • Friend Zone: About 45 cms to 1.2 meters (18 to 46 inches) this is the distance we reserve for social gatherings such as parties, friendly interactions ect…
  • Social Zone: About 1.2 to 3.5 meters (4 to 12 feet) this zoning is reserved for strangers we just met, acquaintances and anyone we interact with that we haven’t established a relationship with.
  • Audience Zone: Anything over 3.5 meters (12 feet) is used to address an audience or large group of people like playing Charades.

Personal Space Zoning Distances Body Language: Personal Space

Crowded Places

To put the zoning example to the test, go to anywhere that has large crowds of people who are forced to have their Intimate Zone violated and are in between objective locations, like public transportation from trains to buses, elevators, lines at the supermarket or museum and observe these attitudes in yourself and others as if we all followed these unwritten rules;

  • Eye contact must be avoided at all costs.
  • Show no emotion whatsoever and maintain an expressionless face.
  • If standing in a large compact crowd; remain rigidly stiff as a pole and avoid any physical movement.
  • You are a selective mute for this journey even if you see somebody you know, hold your breath if possible.
  • Act busy, pretend to read a book, newspaper, take out your phone and text or watch the floor numbers change in the elevator.

Rules of Personal Space Invasion 214x300 Body Language: Personal SpaceAnother thing to notice is, if we have the option to choose where to sit or what to claim as a space of our own…we will select the seat that is located right in between two other claimed personal spaces rather than sit in the immediate seat to someone else (look at the main article photo up the top).Have you ever gone driving in your car and noticed the person in the car next to you applying makeup, picking their nose, combing their hair as if nobody could see them? It is thought our personal space can change depending on the object we choose to entrust our Intimate Zone in and giving it the power to become an extension of it (read about Property below), like the father who has his personal chair in the lounge room and doesn’t like anyone else using it because it has become an extension of his intimate zone…well the same can happen with cars where the borders of our car become our invisible air bubble defining our Intimate Zone borders, hence why when someone is tail gaiting us or cutting us off, we feel our Intimate Zone is being invaded many times resulting in cases of Road Rage.

Property

kitchen territory 274x300 Body Language: Personal SpaceApart from Personal space amongst us humans there is another strange thing that exists to mark our space, belongings or possessions.You’ll notice when someone is bragging about their new car or boat they will start leaning against it or putting their foot on it while making statements such as “Yep…this is my new baby!”, it doesn’t only apply to material objects though as couples will do this just as often by embracing each others arms or leaning against one another, this form of creating some sort of physical contact to what is ours is a way of giving the illusion that the object or person is an extension of our body and therefore part of our personal space or property.

territory claiming Body Language: Personal Space

territory claiming husband 196x300 Body Language: Personal SpaceWomen will start “grooming” their husbands by touching their clothes, fixing their ties not only to show affection but to display to the competition that he is spoken for “He’s mine! Stay back bitches!!”.My teachers would always complain I was being disrespectful by putting my feet on the desks and I would always answer “this is something between me and the desk, if he doesn’t complain or find it disrespectful why should you?” but in fact such a simple act was really an unconscious way of claiming that desk as my property, you can also see such acts with people who lean on the front door of their house or the school bullies leaning on benches, the walls of the hallway or classroom as they believe the school is their property and therefore have the right to do whatever they want with any kid in it…if you get a bully on your front lawn and challenge him to a fight, see how confident they will feel.

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, please read the rest of the articles by clicking here.

Body Language: Hands

January 26th, 2010

Hand Gestures Body Language: Hands
Our hands are composed of 27 small bones, all connected together through dozens of ligaments and numerous tiny muscles to move the joints.According to researchers, there is more amount of nerve connections between our hands and our brain than any other part of the body making it the most revealing and visible area of our body when trying to read body language.These are some of the popular gestures:

  • Rubbing Hands 150x150 Body Language: HandsRubbing Hands: When someone quickly rubs their palms together, it’s a sign of positive expectation.Haven’t you ever made exciting plans and while talking about it with someone you rubbed your hands in impatience looking forward to the event? Observe some people who are about to throw dice…they’ll quickly rub the dice inside their palms before throwing it in hopes of good fortune, go to a local club and watch the MC introduce his special guest for that night…they’ll rub heir hands while saying “We have a special treat Tonight ___”.One thing you have to notice though is the speed in which the person is rubbing their hands together, if they do it quickly it means its an honest positive outcome for themselves and/or everyone, if they rub their hands slowly however, it can clearly be interpreted as a sign of deviousness and acting sneaky…many used car salesman use the slow rubbing of hands while trying to get rid of one of those old black smoke exhaust bombs.
  • Clenched Hands 150x150 Body Language: HandsClenched Hands: This is one of those subtle gestures that may try to portray confidence or respect when it fact it really means frustration, restraint, anxiety or negative thoughts.There is different ways of using the clenched hands gesture, some have the hands clenched in front of the face while sitting and resting the elbows on the table, others rest their clenched hands on the table or their lap while many simply clench their hands in front of their stomach or crotch while standing up.The height in which the hands are held demonstrates the level of frustration, clenched hands in front of face means more frustration than clenched hands on the lap.
  • The Monty Burns 150x150 Body Language: HandsThe Monty Burns: One of my favorites, this is when the fingers of one hand slight press against the fingers of the other creating the shape of a church rooftop, which is funny cause it resembles a lot the act of praying with your hands…sometimes the fingers will squish down and back up expanding and compressing the fingers triangle shape, it doesn’t necesarily have to be in front of them as many use this gesture on their lap or in front of the lower abdomen while sitting.Unlike any of the other gestures throughout body language, this is the only one you can read in isolation without looking for groups/clusters of other gestures, it’s a clear sign the person has confidence and feels superior.
  • Back Held Hands 150x150 Body Language: HandsBack Held Hands: There are some people that like walking around while holding their hands behind their back, this is the typical posture used by army sergeants, principals at school roaming the hallway and policemen patrolling the streets.The total opposite of crossing your arms, this hand/arm gesture exposes the vulnerable chest with its vital organs, stomach, crotch and neck in an attempt to demonstrate fearlessness, superiority and self confidence (as can be seen in the example on the left by the Head wrist griping 150x150 Body Language: HandsPriest walking with his disciple).One thing to note though that this gesture is referring to the hold of palm over hand (as mentioned in the Palms & Thumbs article, palm downwards being a sign of authority), if however they don’t have palm over hand but instead are gripping their wrist with the other hand behind their back…it says something completely different, it’s a display of frustration and self control, as if refraining themselves from using that hand to punch or slap someone, the higher up the arm the grip of the hand is…the more frustrated they are, some even gripping themselves at the elbow.This one can commonly be observed at court rooms when lawyers are interviewing the accused or witnesses.
  • Pros and Cons 150x150 Body Language: HandsPros and Cons: It’s common practise in many cultures such as the French or Italian to raise their hands slightly while talking as a way of punctuating a conversation, but in many cases it’s also done in the British/American/Australia culture, when you’ve finished talking you lower your hand to let the other person speak.Sometimes when your discussing a topic with someone they will have a biased opinion on the subject, this can be observed by watching how they weight their hands with the opinion…if the person is right handed, the opinions and thoughts they value more or feel more positively inclined to, will be spoken about while raising their right hand (if they are left handed then their left hand), when discussing the points they feel slightly negative about, they will raise their left hand while speaking.
  • head support 150x150 Body Language: HandsHead Support: When someone is using their hand to support their head, it’s a clear sign of boredom and an attempt to restrain themselves from falling asleep by finding a support point to rest their heads.There’s different degrees of support which reflects their degree of boredom, it can begin with a simple thumb being used to support their head, followed by the fist or clenched hand and in the deeper scenarios the whole hand is being used to wrap the face in a hand pedestal while resting the arm on a desk or arm rest.
  • Evaluating 150x150 Body Language: HandsEvaluating: Someone who is paying close attention to and is genuinely interested in what your saying will close their hand and rest it on their chin or cheek occasionally using their index finger to point upwards, if what your saying is something they feel negative towards or don’t agree with, they will start resting their heads on their thumb or hands lower palm while still maintaining the index finger upwards and fist clenched to appear interested, sometimes using the index finger to rub their eye or scratch under it to reinforce their critical thoughts about what your saying.
  • thinking 150x150 Body Language: HandsThinking: When someone is making a decision or thinking about something, you will notice how they slowly raise their hands and start stroking their chin, they might also play with their beard if they have one or sometimes fiddle with their lips stretching them out or squashing them together, it can often be seen at the supermarkets when someone can’t decide if they should buy the low fat yogurt or risk it and venture into the unknown to purchase the new flavored full fat yogurt that just came out.
  • Neck Rub 150x150 Body Language: HandsThe Neck Rub: I remember at school they’d give me these huge projects or essays and as soon as I saw the size of what was required, I’d start rubbing my neck at the intimidating thought of what lay ahead.We have miniature erector pillae muscles on our necks that we referrer to as goosebumps, you’ll notice this gesture frequently at hospital waiting rooms, this is a primitive reaction caused by the body to make our now gone fur pelts stand up on end to make ourselves appear bigger against possible threats, and are signs that reveal we feel intimidated, threatened, angry, frustrated or fearful…rubbing our hands on the back of our necks satisfies that tingly sensation by creating warmth.
  • Fiddler 150x150 Body Language: HandsFiddlers: Occasionally you will find someone who does subtle irrelevant gestures that don’t appear to be much or in context with the moment but can have an important meaning, popular ones used are fiddling with a button, jewelry, piece of paper or metal, playing with hair, even picking lint from their clothes, doing any of these things while looking downwards or away can indicate the person is secretly hiding their opinion because they feel it will be perceived as negative if they share it.
  • Finger Tapping: Finger tapping whether on tables, while holding a cup or on the remote control is always a sign of impatience or anxiety, it can commonly be found at dentist waiting rooms, students waiting to take final exams, ect..

Smoking

Women Smokers 150x150 Body Language: HandsAs I wrote about in my article of the emotionally repressed, in this highly pressured society smoking is considered a sign of inner conflict where scientists have discovered it has less to do with addiction to nicotine (explaining the poor success rate of patches in some) like so many believe and more to do with the reassurance sucking or putting it in their mouth provides.They also found that babies who were breastfed had smaller chances of becoming smokers as opposed to bottle fed babies making up for Men Smokers 150x150 Body Language: Handsthe majority of heavy smokers (around 4 times more likely), this was due to the comfort and bonding being breastfed provided while bottle fed babies searched for that comfort else where as adults, they were also highly more neurotic in behavior and developed oral fixations such as nail biting, pen chewing, ect…

Women smokers tend to be more social smoking oriented as they will use it to appear open by holding the cigarette high in the air and bending their wrist backwards to expose them, this is a sign of attraction as it shows submissiveness by displaying the open palms and delicate wrists Upwards Smoke Positive 150x150 Body Language: Handsleaving the front of the body vulnerable.Men on the other hand keep their wrists stiff and straight to avoid looking effeminately queer and usually rest their smoking hand below chess level after taking a puff (as opposed to women who keep it above their breasts) in an attempt to protect the frontal part of the body at all times, many men also smoke in a secretive way (as shown in the photo to the right) by holding the cigarette inside their palm using the thumb and index finger as opposed to outside of it with the index and the middle fingers.You can also tell a smokers inner emotions by observing the direction in to which they blow their smoke, assuming its a neutral environment and their not blowing downwards to hide the smoke or upwards to not disturb anyone….when smoke is blown upwards it is a sign of Downwards Smoke Negative 150x150 Body Language: Handspositivity, superiority or confidence…when smoke is blown downwards however it is a sign of negativity, secrecy or suspicious behavior, the easiest way to notice this is with cigar smokers, usually cigars are smoked on special occasions to celebrate births, victories or birthdays so everyone will be in a positive mood and blow upwards.The speed in which the smoke is exhaled is also believed to be connected to the intensity of the feeling, if they blow fast upwards it indicates they feel very positive and vice versa.

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, please read the rest of the articles by clicking here.

Body Language: Legs

January 26th, 2010

Leg Gestures Body Language: Legs
In the study of body language, one must combine the use of gestures in groups, the arms can tell us many things, the hands can tell us many more, but the legs can add the exclamation mark to the group of arm/hand/facial gestures a person does telling us exactly what is on their mind.The legs can reveal if a person is open and comfortable around you, or if they are negative and uncertain, they can display a dominant attitude or indicate in which direction a person wants to go…because the beauty of the legs is that the further away a body part is from the brain, the less aware we are of what it is saying about us, we can be somewhat aware of what our facial expressions are portraying and sometimes control our arms, but we almost always forget about our legs.

  • feet pointing to leave 150x150 Body Language: LegsFeet Pointing: The direction our feet point at reveals what our mind is focusing on, we all have a dominant foot that leads us when we are walking (right or left), when speaking to someone we are interested in…our lead foot will point towards them, however if we are in a situation we feel uncomfortable in and/or wish to leave, our foot will point towards the nearest exit or towards a direction we’d wish to continue walking to instead.You will sometimes find people who are perfectly seated and straight on their chair talking to someone while their feet are in the position they would be if they were standing up to leave.
  • Single Leg Cross 150x150 Body Language: LegsStanding Leg Cross: There is two ways someone can cross a leg while standing up, one is crossing one leg in front of the other and resting it on the toes of that foot and the other way is by crossing one leg parallel to the other as if they really needed to pee.Crossing our legs is interpreted as a submissive, defensive or closed minded attitude, as if symbolically Single Leg Cross 2 150x150 Body Language: Legsprotecting or denying access to the genitals.It is also thought to be a sign used by people with low confidence, if you watch a group of people you’ll observe there’s sometimes someone with their arms and leg crossed, usually that person is someone who is new to the group (they’ll also be standing further apart from the rest) and feels insecure and withdrawn around the strangers, if it is a group of men and one of them has their leg crossed while the others have a Dominant Stand (read below)…it portrays the man feels inferior around them or less masculine.
  • Paying Attention 150x150 Body Language: LegsPaying Attention: When somebody stands with both their legs together and remains in a still position with their hands in front or behind of their back (though observe the position as frontal hands indicates defensiveness while hands behind the back can indicate confidence), its a display the person is feeling neutral towards the situation, they have no crossed legs showing negative or closed opinions nor are their feet pointing towards anywhere they wish to go, they remain still like an army soldier awaiting the instructions of his superior.
  • Dominant Stand 150x150 Body Language: LegsDominant Stand: When someone spreads their legs far apart and stands with both feet firmly on the ground, it is a statement they are making implying “nobody will move me from here because I have my feet well positioned on the ground”, usually this is interpreted as a sign of dominance…seen by confident men approaching women but most notoriously found in superior officers giving instructions to the awaiting-instruction-cadets, bouncers and cowboys.This spread leg position also applies while sitting, you will notice dominant men will sit down spreading their legs as if displaying their crotch.
  • crossed leg european 150x150 Body Language: LegsSitting Leg Cross: The same basis applies as a standing leg cross, crossing our legs while we sit is a sign of a submissive, defensive or closed minded attitude, 7 out of 10 people will cross their left leg over their right, always keep in mind leg crossing should be read on context and in groups of other body language gestures, as leg crossing could mean someone feels crossed leg american 150x150 Body Language: Legscold (they will cross their legs tightly when their cold as opposed to in a relaxed manner), that they need to go to the bathroom, in women it could be they are wearing a miniskirt or have cramps.Also note that two types of leg crosses exist, the European one which is one knee resting over the other and the American one where the ankle of what leg is resting on the knee of the other, this last one has a different meaning to the European one as it shows the person has an argumentative or competitive behavior.Some people also choose to re-enforce their attitude, example; Competitive, by locking their crossed leg position using one of both hands, this is a clear sign of a stubborn or tough minded individual who is closed to any other opinion but their own.
  • shy leg twirl 150x150 Body Language: LegsShy Tangle: Often people (though most commonly women) who are shy or timid will entangle their legs together creating this sort of over and under leg cross as in a way of attempting to lock that negative emotion in place and make themselves as narrow and small as possible in order to appear non threatening, another common shy leg twirl is while standing up they will cross one leg in front of the other and hide the foot of that leg behind the knee of the other leg as if they were scratching.
  • ankle lock 150x150 Body Language: LegsAnkle Lock: When sitting or lying down, locking our ankles together is a sign that we are holding back and trying to repress an emotion such as fear or uncertainty, and usually we tuck in our feet under the chair which also shows a withdrawn feeling from that situation.If you ask a dentist about his patients he will confirm 9 out of 10 patients lock their ankles when they are receiving an injection, and 8 out of 10 will usually have their ankles locked during the whole procedure, observe your legs next time you go to the dentist to see for yourself.
  • Chair Barrier 150x150 Body Language: LegsChair Barrier: Some instead of choosing arm shields will use objects instead, using a cup or a bag or a laptop isn’t considered more than a sign of insecurity or uncertainty but when someone uses the chair as a shield it indicates a different message…firstly because the legs are being spread (as in the Dominant Stand) displaying our crotch while shows the intentions to dominate and take control while at the same time defend their vulnerable bodies with the chairs backrest.
  • Smarty Pants 150x150 Body Language: LegsSmarty Pants: While trying to appear bigger by spreading their arms wide and locking them behind their head, they will and cross their legs the American style indicating they feel they are in an argumentative or competitive behavior, this sitting gestures is used by the person who is feeling confident, dominant or superior than the rest…like the telemarketer who just made a few sales and is bragging about it to his co workers, mostly used by the show off’s and braggers.
  • Foot Tapping: Foot tapping repeatedly on the floor can suggest impatience or anxiety, it can commonly be found at dentist waiting rooms, waiting to take the final exams, ect…

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, please read the rest of the articles by clicking here.

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