When first meeting someone, we all make a series of judgments about that person based on what we see with our eyes, but what do our eyes tell that person about ourselves?
We all have an intuition that tells us the eyes are the windows to the soul and make descriptive comments about someones eyes, some have warm eyes, cold eyes, beady eyes, big eyes, piercing eyes, judgmental eyes, resentful eyes ect… So what truly can we learn about someone from their eyes?
Pupils
Pupils are the only part of the body that are uncontrollable, unlike any of the other body language gestures that are unconscious but still controllable if someone is aware, pupils will act on their own contracting and dilating based on the light conditions.What many don’t know however is that pupils are also a reflection of our mood, our Pupils Dilate when we are excited or aroused, dilated pupils are directly linked to romance…womens eyes will dilate when they find the male attractive, what is known as “gazing deep into each others eyes” is an unconscious way of looking for pupil dilation in the other to get excited if we see it, haven’t you ever wondered why clubs are so poorly lit? and why so many relationships come from those places? poor lighting will cause our pupils to dilate creating the effect of arousal/excitement…when the newly met person from the opposite sex we are talking to at a club looks at our eye pupils they unconsciously think they are dilated because of them, it’s also used in marketing, some of the models I worked with were instructed to put eye drops before a photo shoot as dilated pupils in models who are used to sell a product, increase sales by up to 40% as the buyer will find them more attractive (subconsciously thinking the dilated pupil model is excited to see them from the photo), prostitutes in the 19th century would apply drops of Belladona containing atropine for pupil dilation…just look at the picture below and see which eye you find more appealing, the dilated pupil or the beady snake eye?.Contracted Pupils have the opposite meaning, when we feel angry or negative towards something, our pupils will contract.Imagine playing Poker for example with the upper hand of pupil observation…
Eyebrows
Eyesbrows are also very expressive of a persons emotions and attitude, controlled by the frontal belly of the Occipitofrontalis muscles, they can tell you if someone is angry, concerned, submissive or confused.
Raised Eyebrows: When both eyebrows are raised for a few split seconds during a greeting, it’s a sign of submissiveness…a way of saying “I come in friendlyness”, just practice right now saying a very excited “Hey!” and odds are you’ll notice how your eyebrows raised rapidly, it is also often used as a gesture of surprise.If you’ve ever observed a women plunk her eyebrows you’ll see they always pluck upwards…so the eyebrow appears as further away as possible from the eye usually 
removing the hairs close to the eye under the eyebrow rather than the hairs on top, this comes down to the basic primitive instinct where men find submissive women more attractive because it releases hormones filling them with the need to protect them…most beauty techniques women use are quite deceitful in general, ever wondered why they apply blush on their cheeks? It’s an ancient tradition used to appear timid/shy/healthy, men meet women with plucked eyebrows and blushed cheeks and once getting to know them the poor fools start wondering, “But…I thought you were submissive and shy 
”.The lovely Audrey Hepburn can be seen here doing it…though she’s also using the “Vagina Mouth” flirting gesture :S.
Lowered Eyebrows: Lowering our eyebrows is what we use to display aggressiveness, dominance or sadness, they are also lowered to display concern or authority…like a parent who is punishing their kid and sending them to their rooms without supper or tv for a week will have their eyebrows lowered while using the index finger in an authority manner as mentioned in the Palms and Thumbs article.
Eyes
The first time I read about the body language of eyes was a few years ago, it was an article that mentioned Marilyn Monroe being a genius of sensual body language, perhaps that is where the rumors of her high IQ come from, a person that can fool the world by appearing dumb and ditsy.She knew perfectly well that raising her eyebrows would be found attractive by men creating that submissive perception and need for protection, she also lowered her eyelids, slightly opened her mouth using the “Vagina Mouth” and “Boob Shoulder” flirtation gestures, gently touched her body with her hands (as a way of inviting men to do the same) and exposed her vulnerable neck (another submissive gesture) creating a pre-orgasmic face, the distance between the eyebrows and the eyelids portrayed a mysterious secretive look that all together drove men crazy and still does to this day.
I personally never found Marilyn Monroe attractive but I wondered if the eyes could create such a powerful instrument in the seduction of men, could my own personal physical attractions have some type of logical explanation as to why they occur? Many people that know me for some time know I had a slight infatuation for the Amelie movie character, after many years reading much about brain chemistry I discovered that women who have high levels of the hormone known as Estrogen, develop larger eyes and smaller chins along with fuller lips…women who have high levels of Estrogen are proven to have an easier time conceiving children, therefore women with big eyes are more fertile which as men we might be genetically predispositioned to detect unconsciously (and yes…I’m quite aware of how creepy it is to know the physical features of fertile women).My second hypothesis works around the basis that our eyes never grow, when we are babies our eyes are pretty much the size they are going to be throughout our life, therefore people who have larger eyes appear younger than they actually are, using Ronald A. Fisher’s concept of evolutionary biology known as the runaway selection stating that people genetically pursue a specific sexually attractive feature which our children may inherit and will also 
pursue it (resulting in that quality becoming more predominant in newer generations), I believe men will usually prefer younger women or who appear so by having juvenile facial features, reproduction with such females will continue the runaway selection creating even more childlike looking women in each generation, hence why blondes are so popular amongst men…because many young girls are born with blonde hair and slowly as they reach puberty their hair will darken to brown.In simpler words, as mentioned further above men’s hormone levels increase when faced with women who resemble prepubescent females as we are genetically 
preprogrammed to protect infants and specially young girls.In the movie of Amelie, the death of Princess Diana plays a huge role in Amelie’s life and Diana is the perfect example of my theory, she popularized the “Shy Smile” and had a trademark head movement which involved lowering her head and keeping her chin downwards in submissiveness while she looked up…as children are considerably shorter than us they always have to look upwards giving us the same impression she did, this is why Diana & Amelie endeared the hearts of men and women alike as while men wanted to protect them, women wanted to be like them.
Blinking: On average we blink 10 times per minute and every blink won’t last longer than 1/10 of a second, as I mentioned in the Lying Gestures article our blinking rate increases when we feel under pressure like for example when lying (though now as more people are aware of this the opposite can also apply…blinking less than 5 times per minute trying to appear honest), when the blinks last longer than 1/10 of a second i.e; 2 or 3 seconds, it is a sign that the person feels uninterested, bored or superior to you in conversational or intellectual knowledge and is trying to block you out from their sight.
Scanner: Sometimes while talking to someone you’ll notice their eyes will start scanning the environment as if they were checking out what is going on in the the surroundings, this can sometimes imply they are searching for an escape or exit because they feel uncertain of what is happening or bored (observe a sleazy guy trying to hit on a pretty girl and her reaction), another technique that occurs to the scanner is that…since they know looking away for an exit like that is impolite, they will actually stare more than usual at the person with a fake smile like a “Tight Lipped” one.
Eye Direction
The following techniques known as Neurolinguistic Programming were developed by American psychologists Richard Bandler and John Grinder.They concluded that based on our eye movements we can reveal what our brains are focusing on by telling us if we are imagining something or remembering something, the only problem is many times it may occur in a fraction of a second so you must pay close attention.It is also thought the opposite directions apply for left handed people, so if for a right hand person…remembering means looking upwards and to the right, for a left handed person it would be upwards and to the left.Also keep in mind there are three memory channels in our brain…visual stored memories, auditory stored memories and emotional/feeling stored memories, 35% of people prefer to remember something through the visual information channel (with statements such as “I see what you mean”), 25% will rather use the auditory channel (“That sounds familiar”) and the remaining 40% incline towards the feeling channel (“We reached an understanding”).
Top Right: When someone is looking to their top right, it is a sign they are remembering something using the visual channel in the brain.- Top Left: When someone is looking to their top left, it is a sign they are imagining something using the visual construction channel in the brain.This is great for when asking a liar a question that requires memory (eg: Why didn’t you bring your homework today?) and instead of looking up and to the right to remember why…the look up and to the left to imagine something and make up and excuse.
- Center Right: When someone is looking to their center right, it is a sign they are remembering a sound using the auditory channel in the brain.
- Center Left: When someone is looking to their center left, it is a sign they are imagining a sound using the auditory construction channel in the brain.
- Bottom Right: When someone is looking to their bottom right, it is a sign they are remembering either a taste, a smell or a feeling using the kinesthetic channeling of memory.
- Bottom Left: When someone is looking to their bottom left, it is a sign they are having an internal dialog with themselves either out loud or inside their heads (observe crazy people when they are blabbering to themselves and they’ll usually be using this eye direction).
If the person wears glasses, you might watch them sometimes start playing with them and sticking one arm of the glasses frame in their mouth…also known as The Pacifier, anything put in the mouth to fiddle with is a sign the person needs reassurance, in this case people who start sucking on their glasses arm frame are trying to buy themselves time from answering something and are making a decision or arranging their thoughts as to what to say.
If however they start adjusting their glasses on their nose, it sends the signal they like what they are seeing or hearing and by rearranging the glasses on their nose it’s a subconscious way of symbolically “re-focusing” their attention to make sure what they see is true…this is known as a positive evaluation gesture, for people who don’t have glasses…scratching or smoothly rubbing their eyebrow is a substitute to reveal the same internal positive attitude.
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